How to overcome your blind spots

If you have a leadership role, you probably have blind spots. Because people often tell leaders what they want to hear, not what they really need. Some people around leaders often seem intimidated or don't find a safe space to be open and honest. As a leader, how can you overcome this challenge?

John Maxwell, in his book Developing the Leader Within You, suggested two actions:

First, assume that you have blind spots that may hurt you. Second, recognize that others could be intimidated and may not always be willing to help you with them.

Therefore he suggests  asking these questions: “What is it like to be on the other side of the table from me?”, “What am I missing?” and “Can you help me?”

The two keys if you want to make a sustainable change are: to recognize it and make it acknowledged by others.

I also like the feedforward approach from Marshall Goldsmith, that is, asking for suggestions.

What are your suggestions for improvement? As your manager, what suggestions do you have for me? How can I be a better manager?

Feedforward helps people envision and focus on a positive future, not a failed past. By giving people ideas on how they can be even more successful, we increase their chances of success. It is more productive to help people be right than prove them wrong.

Remember that when you ask for suggestions, you should listen. Don't talk. Be sure that you understand and clarify, and then say thank you.

What other suggestions do you have?

Where is Anything Better?

“Indeed, if you find anything in human life better than justice, truth, self-control, courage–in short, anything better than the sufficiency of your own mind, which keeps you acting according to the demands of true reason and accepting what fate gives you outside of your own power of choice–I tell you, if you can see anything better than this, turn to it heart and soul and take full advantage of this greater good you've found.”

— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 3.6.1

Practice Gratitude

What is the one thing people who can wholly lean into joy have in common? It's gratitude. They practice gratitude. It’s not an “attitude of gratitude”—it’s an actual practice. (Brené Brown writes about this in her great book Dare to Lead.)

 Practicing gratitude and celebrating milestones and victories increases employee engagement, satisfaction, and retention.

How do you practice gratitude? What other practices do you have?

You can’t create the right change with the wrong story

Every person, leader and organization faces the challenge of telling a story that moves people—one that deepens engagement with others.

Sometimes what’s stopping us isn’t the value of our ideas—it’s our ability to communicate them meaningfully and bring others along.

I found this TEDx from Bernadette Jiwa (8 min). Bernadette’s eight bestselling books are modern classics on mastering the art of storytelling to persuade, influence and inspire. She advises, consults and speaks with organizations, entrepreneurs and business leaders, from startups to Fortune 500 companies, universities to non-profits who want to amplify their influence and impact.

It doesn't matter how good your ideas is if nobody cares. I think you will like it as I did.